Sprinkled throughout my ramblings are various mentions of my wife, mostly in passing. Because of these, I may have given a skewed perception of her as some stereotypical one-dimensional woman that doesn’t like math or shops all day. That’s my fault. Let’s nip that in the bud, shall we? First, she doesn’t like to deal with money issues because she’s female. She doesn’t like dealing with money because, well, she just doesn’t. Obviously, I do. While growing up, my mother was an active money manager, teaching me about frugality and saving money for the future. Without her, I doubt this blog would even exist.
Now that I’ve made that clear, let’s add some dimension to this “wife” character. Sure, she fits some stereotypes. But don’t we all? And what’s wrong with that, anyways? Here are the facts:
1. She likes fancy shampoos like Aveda. I use Pert Plus.
2. She reads The Superficial, while I peruse Gizmodo.
3. She is smarter than I am, and got better grades in school than me.
4. She has more inner drive than anyone I know.
5. Between the two of us, I am the one more likely to stay at home to take care of the kids while the other works. I’m cool with that.
6. She has a higher income potential than I do.
7. She doesn’t care about index fund expense ratios, or which bank has the best rate. I should teach her the basics, however.
8. She only reads this blog for any mention of her. (Hi Sweetie!)
But, most importantly, we are both aligned in our financial goals. It’s totally cliche, but the only relationship advice I can give is that communication is paramount. We have done a lot of talking about our future goals and agreeing on our priorities. Doing this makes so many extraneous things just drop by the wayside.
Traveling to see all of this rock we live on
Spending time outdoors together (with our dog)
Good food from hole-in-the-wall eateries
An early retirement to do more of the above
Avoiding daycare for kids
Things We Place Less Importance Upon Now
Good food from fancy white-tablecloth restaurants
Honestly, I love her because she is somewhat of an enigma. She’ll gossip about Tom and Katie, and then switch to debating the merits of some new government policy. She has many “feminine” qualities, but has a fierceness that surprises many around her. I enjoy meeting people who defy my expectations. The fashion model who is studying to become a neurosurgeon. The computer club geek who runs triathlons on the weekends.
In the end, we are a team. If I poke fun at her it’s because I’m being stupid. She has her strengths and I have mine. Although you’ll only have to put up with my writing, we are in this together.
(Okay, she says what I just wrote was really cheesy.)
By Jonathan Ping | General | 11/18/06, 11:30pm